Love, Loss, lockdowns and a possible Buddy

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Milo

What a week this is turning out to be. On Monday morning everything was fine, and Milo our Jack Russell of  17  years had come down from upstairs at his usual relaxed self, yawning and looking up for his treat before going outside to do his pee. I know he was busting to go, but he doesn’t let on till after his treat. That’s how far he got me in his quest for total obedience from his master. No treat no pee.

Of course he had slowed down. His barking at motorbikes and black crows ceased a couple of years ago. But, on the whole he kept his sparkle and nothing escaped him. We took our walks but I would lead now instead of Milo.

By the afternoon, things had become a bit odd. He seemed to have lost his way and would stand outside next to the doggy door instead of going through it. He walked slowly in circles and when stopping stared in front of him. He did not want his chicken necks. A bad sign, but he did drink water. I took Milo to the vet who examined him but found his organs such as heart and lungs to be in good shape.

Th evening was bad. He kept going outside and hide under bush and shrubs, was very slow in his walk. I took his bed from upstairs and we both slept downstairs. Milo in his bed and me on the couch. I patted him during the night and he still responded by looking up.

Next day a return to the vet as Milo was decidedly worse. He was still alert enough to let me know he did not want to be with the vet. He never liked going there even though the vet was brilliant and a caring animal man. Milo had a blood test and the results were bad. Both his kidneys were malfunctioning and at his age it looked bad. I knew I did not want him to suffer , neither did the vet, and we decided to help him on his way. I carried him back to the car and buried him beneath the Manchurian pear tree at my front garden.

I was and still am devastated and did not think it would be so painful. At my coffee group I was given so much support. A condolence card was signed by all who knew Milo and was given a large bunch of yellow tulips. I have so many good friends and I am so fortunate.

The good news is that I am perhaps allowed to look  after another terrier, Buddy. He looks lovely on the photo and I am meeting him tomorrow at Lake Alexandra near my place.

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Lake Alexandra.

I will let you know about Buddy and feel so fortunate.

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42 Responses to “Love, Loss, lockdowns and a possible Buddy”

  1. Yvonne Says:

    Goodbye, faithful old Milo. I hope you bond with the dog you are going to meet.

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  2. auntyuta Says:

    Gerard, I hope this works out alright for you to be looking after Buddy. It might cheer you up a bit. Yea, what a week this turned out to be. I love this picture of Milo. He looks so beautiful! 🙂 Very good to remember him by.
    Best Wishes and Hugs from me, Uta

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  3. Big M Says:

    So sad to hear of the loss of Milo, barker at motorcycles and defender of you and Helvi. So glad that he blessed you for seventeen years.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, Big M. His barking at crows was known in Bowral. People used to stop and look up at the roofs where the crows would be perched. Milo would get into a stage of mania and had to be taken away into an alley and given a stern talk.

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  4. janesmudgeegarden Says:

    Gerard, I am so sorry to hear about Milo. I know what a terribly hard decision that final one is. At the base of a Manchurian pear is a good resting place. It’s good that you have the support of friends.
    I hope the plan with Buddy works out well. Best wishes, Jane.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, Jane. The friendship I managed to receive here in the Southern Highlands has been so wonderful. Our daily coffee meetings at Stumps cricket oval are the highlights of each day. And our friendships are due in a large part because of our love for dogs. Rain or shine we turn up each day!
      I feel so lucky.

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  5. popsiclesociety Says:

    What a sad news! The most heartbreaking day from having a fur friend companion 🐶 I think Buddy will be a good companion too 🐶💕

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  6. Therese Trouserzoff Says:

    Mon brave Gez. So sorry to hear the great Milo has gone to the kennel in the sky. He was much loved even by those of us who knew him vicariously through you.

    I’m glad you did the courageous thing. I’ve done six hard visits to the vet in my time. 4 dogs and two cats. And it never gets any easier. But it’s the right decision And 17 dog years is a damned fine innings..

    Hoping that things go well with Mr Buddy. And with you, dear Gez 😊

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, I always foolishly thought Milo would live forever. Lately though perhaps since Helvi passed away he would trail behind when on our walks. Also he left ducks alone and became tolerant towards the odd rabbit scurrying along the creek.
      A good innings, Therese. All out for a duck.

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  7. doesitevenmatter3 Says:

    Oh, Gerard! I am sitting here weeping! I’m so VERY sorry to hear of Milo’s death. 😦 I will miss hearing about his antics, his love, his sweetness. ETC. 😦
    I’m so glad he adopted you and Helvi so many years ago. He lived a long life of love.
    You are so right…we don’t want our furry-ones to suffer. You did the most loving thing for him.
    I hope all goes well with Buddy. Please DO keep us updated.
    (((HUGS)))
    PS…As I shared in a recent blog, Cooper has lost the vision in one of his eyes. 😦 The vet says it is just a result of old age. He is handling it much better than I am. I just love him so much!

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, dear Carolyn. Tears about plenty. Carrying the still warm Milo from the vet to the car and then home to give a burial under pebbled soil in a cotton shroud was his last earthly journey.
      I remember picking Milo up as an 8 week puppy and how he thrived on the farm with two other dogs we had, and his way of looking at he alpacas we were breeding. I wonder if he thought them to be large dogs?

      Hope Cooper will keep giving you some more joy. We so love our furry friends. Hugs to you all,
      Gerard

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      • doesitevenmatter3 Says:

        Cooper adopted us when he was barely 6 weeks old. He has brought us joy every day. We are so grateful he is in our lives. 🙂

        More (((HUGS))) for you. I know you miss Milo deeply. I bet he DID think the alpacas were large dogs. 🙂 Dogs think everyone is part of The Pack. 😀

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  8. Robert Parker Says:

    Sorry, Gerard, it’s hard when you’ve spent 17 years in someone’s company and then they’re gone. But that’s a good long life for that breed, I think, Milo beat the odds. Glad to hear he kept his sparkle all those years.

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  9. petspeopleandlife Says:

    Dear Gerard, heart felt sympathy in the loss of your dear sweet companion. Milo was surely a once in a life time dog. I am sure that he took piece of your heart. I do hope that Buddy will be a great little dog for you. I know that he can never replace Milo in your heart and thoughts but he will be a most welcome companion. Buddy and you will have mutual need for companionship. A dog’s presence is not the same as another human. Dog’s reward us with a quiet acceptance and devoted loyalty.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, it is difficult to be rational when a dog dies. Milo was part of the household and we went shopping, greeted me each morning and looked on when I worked in the garden. He was as much a life as an animal in the shape of a person.
      We might not be the same but neither are most people that I know.
      Thank you so much for your sharing of my grief, Ivonne. It helps and Buddy is now with me, a cheerful ten year old boy.

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  10. Beth Alisan Says:

    Gerard, tears slide down my cheeks as I read of your loss. The companionship of a loyal dog is beyond compare. It’s amazing how intertwined they become in our lives. I hope all goes well with your meet and greet with Buddy.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, it is amazing even though I knew Milo would not live much longer, I was upset almost the same as the loss of a human being. How does one measure the loss of a life after seventeen years being together?
      Buddy is great!

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  11. Graeme Mackreth Says:

    Sorry to hear about milo, Gerard. Best wishes with the new companion.

    Graeme

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  12. gerard oosterman Says:

    Thank you Graeme.

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  13. catterel Says:

    Like everyone else who has commented, I am very very sorry for your loss, and know how hard that particular visit to the vet is. (In fact, I have a poem about out on my Black Country site, probably incomprehensible to anyone outside that particular region of Middlle England). All my deepest sympathy.

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  14. hilarycustancegreen Says:

    I’m so sorry, Gerard, I know it hurts. You made us love Milo too, so he is remembered, enjoyed and now missed on the other side of the world too. May you and Buddy keep each other happy and busy. Hugs, Hilary

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, Thank you dear Hilary. Though the years it is a credit to his great character that he now is so fondly remembered. Indeed, an international legend, almost on par with Lassie.
      How are you going Hilary?

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  15. algernon1 Says:

    I’m saddened to hear that Milo time has come. Some years ago I recall our dog Dana had to meet the same fate. I was upset in a meeting when it happened, I’d already dug the hole which was way too big. Mrs A texted me to say that as they buried her the sun shone through the rain clouds. She’d had a good life.

    Nowadays the Algenonina’s both have dogs, Kiki the ex racer Greyhound who is now considered middle aged and Kida the Kelpador who is young energetic dog. They keep me fit when I walk them when they cannot, which is most days.

    Keep yourself safe Gerard.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, odd how it affects our lives. I never thought it would happen, What is it that we deny what is the most natural thing in nature; and that is death?
      There is nothing like accepting and welcoming the sadness. It heals the pain and fondness of memories do finally follow.
      Thank you Algy.

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  16. auntyuta Says:

    I just referred to your blog here:

    Thinking about the Future and reflecting about the Past and about what is going on in the Present

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  18. rangewriter Says:

    RIP Milo. You were a famous man in a dog suit, though you may not have known it. Your fame crossed oceans and penetrated hearts you never knew or cared a whit about. I’m glad your final days were brief and that you had the enormous kind heart and good will of your main man, Gerard, to ease your way out. You lived gallantly and died with dignity. We should all be so lucky.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, he sure lived a good life, the dear Milo. As a young dog he was a real wild one. The number of times he pulled left right and center to bark at passing motorbikes or higher up on top of buildings at black crows who used to tease him by flying over him and then screech at him.
      Nice memory you have on him and so true.

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  19. shoreacres Says:

    See? This is the danger of opening a link, setting it as a tab, and then going off to take a shower or fix dinner or whatever. Until I read about Buddy, I was completely unaware of Milo’s passing. I feel badly that I didn’t offer condolences then, although, if your adjustment to being without Milo is in any way akin to my adjustment to being without Dixie Rose, condolences still are welcome. Every time I read of someone’s pet passing, I get another pang. They do become such a part of our lives: sometimes, more than human relatives. I suppose that falls into the “sad but true” category, but it certainly is true.

    I’m anxious to read how things went with Buddy. I would love to have another kitty, but it just isn’t practical. For one thing, Dixie Rose was no expense at all, other than food and litter. (Well, and a surfeit of toys.) But I’m on a very limited income, and if I were to get a pet that required expensive vet treatment, it wouldn’t be a good situation. So, I’ll do some occasional kitty-sitting for a friend, and let that be it — apart from the squirrels and birds that come to my feeders.

    I really am sorry. I’d developed a good bit of affection for Milo, and always looked forward to his appearance in your blog.

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  20. gerard oosterman Says:

    Thank you , Linda.
    Yes Milo was special and missed by many. Even a woman who directs constant traffic to the next door Covid vaccination clinic asked me where my dog was. I told her the sad news and she was upset because she used to see us walking past each day. She wondered why I was walking without Milo!

    However, now have another dog rescued from the local Shire Dog Pound. He is sweet and very keen on my company, loves walking but is also an Houdini, escaping is part of his history.
    He already escaped once bolting through the open garage door. What a job I had catching him!
    He needs a few weeks of treats and training and hopefully he will resist the temptation to escape.

    I have to take him to the vet because his coat is matted and knotted and all tangled. The local groomers are in Lockdown as is society as a whole.
    A law has been passed forbidding contact with more than one at a time, preferably none.

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