No words needed. But why ?

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Our previous home with our grandsons. A ‘before’ photo.

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Still garden intact a few weeks ago.

 

But now? This was all done on the order of the “chairperson,” a week ago.

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The view from the living room

 

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Outside our bedroom

 

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The entrance

 

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What would Helvi make of this?  Outrageous!

 

 

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The sweetness of Helvi’s garden. You can understand the need for me to move away from this toxic environment. But I still own it!

 

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50 Responses to “No words needed. But why ?”

  1. lifecameos Says:

    Horrific !! It is surprising you lasted there as long as you did.

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  2. Bron Larner Says:

    I am SO sad to read this. You must be shattered. The forces of evil are with us everywhere. And yes, this IS evil.

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  3. Dora Jahnes Says:

    What a bastard…he certainly knows how to rattle your chain. You still own it Gerard. Write a letter to the owners with a request from them to sign a letter to B.C. to sack the chairperson.
    Write up a new job discription for an independent gardener.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      A major problem Dora, I am at breaking point. So much effort to make the place look nice. Half the units are not lived in by the owners and that seems to give this chairperson the freedom to wield his shears and secateurs.
      He does it on his own bat and I doubt he secured any support. He must be so unhappy.

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  4. freefall852 Says:

    It’s symptomatic of a society that leans more to the side of the control freaks than to the reasoned people…You see them in committees and local govt’ and now very much in Fed’ govt’…they say all the “right” words and press all the “right” buttons to make themselves appear competent and in-charge..but they are mostly completely incapable and a danger to any community.
    But there you go…I’d say the proof of the person’s incapable side was in the destroyed remnant of your/Helvi’s garden.

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  5. berlioz1935 Says:

    Dear Gerard, I did not push the like button, because I don’t like what has been happening to your garden. In wartime we called such happenings „scorched earth“. That is what fascists do. Everywhere a certain number of people turn this way nowadays. I wonder what irked those people when they saw your garden. Surely, Helvi would not be amused.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Perhaps in our gardens he saw happiness denied to himself. Right from the start this man pursued to dominate the communal gardens. He loves fences and guttering and will defend those items till the death. Perhaps as a child he grew up with people that felt the same affinity to metallic things such as roofs and gutters.

      Who knows? Suburbia has a lot to answer for.

      Back when we lived in Revesby, our neighbour who was very friendly, used to spend his entire week-end on his knees on the lawn prising out unwanted types of grass or weeds.

      Some people could not be but adversely affected by those kind of obsessions. I don’t know. Perhaps I am too harsh.

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  6. catterel Says:

    Heartbreaking – such vandalism, I find no words. WHY???

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  7. DisandDat Says:

    This is a typical example of the Strata Systems failings. It needs a giant overhaul.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, it is riddled with problems. The setting up of Strata committees is an invitation to attract the failed executive. They get nominated in a committee and after that they swagger around, drunk with power, yielding books of Strata by-laws in one hand and secateurs in the other. It’s such a sad sight.

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  8. Yvonne Says:

    I can’t click on ‘like’ for this post. What an absolutely horrible, vicious thing to do.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, it is terrible. I felt like going back to grief counselling. I felt so sad how he defiled the memory of my dear Helvi who was so proud of our garden. ‘Every window we look out off is a painting’ she used to say. We had such a happy time.

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  9. doesitevenmatter3 Says:

    Oh, no! 😦 This is so sad, so terrible! 😦 This brings tears to my eyes.
    Is there someone you can contact…that can deal with the “chairperson”. ???
    I think you should be reimbursed for the damage done.
    (((HUGS)))

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, I have been given advice on damages for ‘pain and suffering’ and also the material loss of value of the entire property including those owned by others. The whole place’s value has been lessened by the destruction of a nice and unified garden. It has became a sad and spiritless place.

      This man did it on his own accord without any prior notification or support from others. He even admitted that in his own writing.
      Thank you for the hug. I can certainly do with that. I am close to braking point over this.

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      • doesitevenmatter3 Says:

        Again, that is so very sad.
        I’m glad you got advice related to the damages.
        But I know that doesn’t make up for the sadness and tragedy over the loss of the garden…and nothing can replace what it had been. 😦
        More-(((HUGS))) Please take care of yourself.

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      • doesitevenmatter3 Says:

        I’ve been thinking and hoping you can “release” the negative feelings this is causing. You don’t need anymore extended pain in your life. You are building a new life now and I hope you can focus on your new life.
        Again, More-(((HUGS)))

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      • gerard oosterman Says:

        Thank you for your support and hugs to you too and rub for Cooper.

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  10. shoreacres Says:

    First: this surely is like losing Helvi all over again. As hard as it will be, my advice is to turn away and get on with life. To attempt to gain restitution, or to nurture a grudge, won’t affect that “chairperson” one iota, but it could destroy you and your pleasure in the new life you’re building. You can’t rebuild the past, so focus on the future.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, Linda. He just isn’t worth it.
      After weeks of trying to entice birds to come and visit my place, yesterday two rosellas came and perched on the fence near the feed tray.
      They now know me as well as I carefully paced around the glass doors inside to give them familiarity, security and get used to a harmless environment.

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  11. leggypeggy Says:

    It’s frustrating and disheartening, but try to let it go. Angst and anguish don’t help you to heal.

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  12. freefall852 Says:

    I’ll leave you with a little humour on one of the best paybacks I have heard…:
    Pissed in the tea pot.
    The best payback I know of personally was confessed to me by a woman tradie..a house painter who was bullied by this misogynist builder who didn’t believe building sites were a place for “girlies” as he called her..He would bump the step-ladder when she was on it, kick her long-handled roller as he walked past and generally be a real bastard.
    On her last day, just before she left the job, she took his tea-pot from the smoko bench (he liked his tea made in a pot and poured into a mug)…and went and urinated in it…swirled it around a few times, emptied it out and replaced it…just as she was getting into her van, she told the apprentice who she knew personally of what she had done( knowing full well the mischievous intentions of the lad).
    At smoko, the builder prepared his usual pot of tea, poured himself his mug and proceeded to drink it down…the apprentice, being an apprentice, let him get a few good gulps down and then with an air of innocence blurted out:
    “Oh..I meant to tell you..that painter woman..she pissed in your tea pot..”
    At this point we can, as Mark Twain wrote..; “Draw the curtain of charity down over the following proceedings.”

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      I suppose the woman painter got her revenge and felt better after it. Bullying is a nasty habit and damaged a lot of people. Experts say, to stand up to bullies, others say to leave the scene. Easier said than done.
      Domestic violence is the worst with women being the main victims.

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      • freefall852 Says:

        I hold to the Italian tradition that the “vendetta” is an honourable and just action to alleviate an injustice upon one’s family or person…as a matter of fact, I immediately though of a couple of ways you could enact justice upon that person without doing physical harm…but best if I keep such to myself…

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  13. thetinypotager Says:

    So sorry to see the destruction of any garden, let alone one with such meaning x Sending kind thoughts your way Gerard 🌿

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  14. Barbara Says:

    My goodness Gerard what a truly awful thing to happen and obviously at the hands of a truly awful person. If you feel strong enough to deal with then do so but not at the risk of making you sick and unhappy. This man will get his karma and must be so unhappy to behave in this way. You still have your lovely photos and memories, hold on to them and create a beautiful garden at your new home. You’ve got the birds coming already which is pretty impressive. Lots of hugs from me too 🤗

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Thanks, Barbara,

      Certain things are perplexing and this man’s manner of ‘gardening ‘ is one of them.
      While Helvi was alive he left our garden to grow and did not dare to cut it. However, a bad omen was when he cut the top of a birch tree that we had planted in memory of our daughter, Susanna. This modest tree was in no way impeding on property or people. Helvi was in tears but got over it.

      I now have bought four birch trees!
      Thanks for the hugs. Barbara.

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  15. Dorothy Brett Says:

    Gerard, you didn’t tell me you were so upset, but I don’t blame you. I gasped when you told me and couldn’t breathe. As you know I live in a similar situation and looked up the word sociopath and also psychopath, and BTW Hitler was one too..
    Take care my old dear friend, if you can try to think what Helvi would say it might help, but she was a peacemaker and a good person. I miss her so much still, as I know you do too.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Yes, Dorothy, the things that happen! I am over it now though. Glad of all the support and I don’t feel alone. I have now another garden to grow and nourish. I have made new friends and last night made a stunning lamb curry with spinach.
      Cooking and gardening are both creative arts and they seem to go together.

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  16. petspeopleandlife Says:

    What a disgusting bastard. He must be possessed of the devil. And clearly all the “bulbs on his tree are not lit.” If one tried to figure out what that man was trying to achieve or exactly what his motives were, it would be impossible to do so. As Linda has said, move on, even if it is hard and focus on the good of your new home and praise the universe that you had the good sense to leave that vile neighborhood.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      At the beginning we thought that living in a community would be perfect. When it was new one could tell some thought had gone into the gardening which at that time had as its main theme Hebes and Viburnum. However, the gardens now are a hotchpot and perhaps this is inevitable with the coming and going of different owners and occupiers.
      With total destruction of our garden, it is clear that the chairperson doesn’t want mature gardens and, that as good gardens do, would leave a bit of history for future owners to enjoy.

      I am away from that now, It will pass. Thank you, Ivonne.

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  17. algernon1 Says:

    That is just sad Gerard, vandalism. As you say words not needed.

    Has your cataract op been rescheduled. I had my first one done yesterday. Remarkable difference.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Funny, you should mention the cataract. It is due this Thursday. I’ll be so keen to look forward to better sight, Glad that it made a difference to you. Did you have to be picked up from Hospital and someone staying for the night?

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      • algernon1 Says:

        My daughter dropped me off and my wife picked me up and was at home for the night. Taking it easy over the weekend. It was done under a local anesthetic, got there at 10:15 and was home by 2pm.The op took all of 30 minutes. Personally, I’d had worse dental surgery than that. Yes, I looked forward to it bizarre as that might sound. The worst part is the glare, so need sunglasses outside. I’ve been excited all day being able to see clearly and reflecting on how bad my eyesight before was. I’ll need readers but far weaker than now, but it looks like I won’t need glasses for anything else.

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  18. Curt Mekemson Says:

    Meets my definition of criminal, Gerard. So sorry. But the A** H*** is worth you energy and time.–Curt

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  19. rangewriter Says:

    How gut wrenching this must be for you. And that you still own it is like rubbing salt in the wound. I’m so sorry. Glad you got yourself out of there before this destruction rained down on Helvi’s magic.

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  20. hilarycustancegreen Says:

    So sad – as a garden lover I can’t bear to see this kind of destruction, but it must be particularly painful for you.

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    • gerard oosterman Says:

      Hello Hilary,

      How are things with you? Hope all is right.

      I am doubling my efforts in making a new garden and the results are here already. Even the birds have noticed it and visit me regularly now. I bought a fairly large Manchurian Pear and even without its foliage, birds are perching on it already.

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